I Love you... but your effin up the Relationship!

We've all heard the main keys that makes a relationship successful trust, honesty and communication. It the year 2011 and for

some reason these keys seem to have either gotten lost or forgotten, for what ever reason what ever the case may be more and

more couples seem to be breaking up more now than ever. causes of break ups can stem from cheating spouses, physical or

mental abuse and in some cases paternity suits. I'll be the first to admit that it has been a while since I've been in a actual

relationship (and to be honest I sort of enjoy riding in the single lane) I've been a witness to numerous break ups over the years

some worse than others (I've even seen people cut up couches during a break up) however during these break ups rather I've

wanted to or not have become that friend that people to talk

(you know you got somethings on your mind and you just need somebody to listen, yeah that's me!).

Over the years I've learned that there are numerous reason why couples got through the dreaded

"going through it" faze before the initial break up, while I'm not going to sit here and give you every last one I'll make it easy for

you sort of like a cause and effect.

thinking that you can keep in contact with your former jump off or ex and not tell your current spouse, yeah that will

definitely lead to a argument either way its not going to work out, why you ask? simple your giving your current spouse the

assumption that you still have feeling or a emotional attachment to your former flame (trust me I've been there) you best bet

is to just let your former flame know that we can say hi every once and while and keep it casual and that's as far as it can go.

snooping through your spouse phone when he or she either are sleep or out of the room is a sure sign that you don't trust

the person and in some cases even spying on their emails, face book or twitter is just a complete invasion of privacy and is the

same as "if i use the bathroom, are you gonna stand over me too?" .

Stalking your spouse, well what can I say if you have that much time to follow people around obviously you have no life of your

own,

And last but not least over possessive, calling to check up on your spouse every five minutes is just ridiculous! its called space!

a relationship needs that once in a while.

While there are many more examples I could go into, I'll simply say this. If your in a relationship with a person there should

be Space, Honesty and communication between the two, putting your relationship business out to friends and family doesn't

help a relationship it breaks it!

While I'm no professional expert I just thought I would share my thought and ideas on the subject, feel free to leave your

comments where ever you feel fit facebook, BBm, txt and please tell a friends to tell a friend about my blog!

Even Friendship can hurt!

Have you ever awaken one day and realized that you have little to few friends that you hang out with, that happened to me the

other morning and after thinking this thought over for a few days in which i went through the very short list of people that i

consider friends, I've come to the conclusion that i seem to not be a friendship type of person

(you know one of those people that can't seem to keep a close friend rather by choice or not). And what i did next was the

same thing that many of you readers would have done i went on a deleting spree on my Facebook.




I went from over 700 so-called friends down to a simple 200

(I really couldn't figure out how i half those people from the start) but then i did stop there i went through my blackberry




And also went on a deleting spree(with any exception to family members). It as simple as this Readers people will come into

your life, some will come and go while other will stay and leave their marks, while this is a good way to put it even the ones

that stay and leave their marks become a headache after a while!

Everybody wants to be a friend but very little know how to be. A friendship is just as delicate as a relationship is just as

there's 50-50 in a relationship the same rule applies when it comes to friendship. If you can be there for a friend in a time or

need rather it be as a shoulder to lean on, drama with other friends as well as family and even a confidant, it's only

fair that this person should also be there for you in the same situations. if at some point you feel that you are giving more

to a friendship than you are receiving back then its time to cut ties, just like a break up even friendship can hurt!

While i cant speak for other people, I will say that I've experienced these same situations most recently in fact. while I can be

friends to some people i can only be a friend to a person who can be a friend in return. With that said i hope you enjoyed

reading my two newest blog post (the one under this is also brand new) leave your comments or feed back where ever u feel

free and i apologize for the lack of visual for this post!

Weddings and baby showers?! winter of 2011

Its about that time when my creative juices start flowing again which means that its time for a New Blog post! first things first

I would like to thank every one who tuned in to last weeks post and rather you left a comment on my Blog page, Facebook or my

Phone i really appreciate it. With that said its time to kick off this weeks topics.

This winter seem to be a very active season and no I'm not just talking about the Christmas blizzard of 2010



I'm not even talking about the surprising wins of the New York Jets



What I'm talking about is what seems to be a new growing trend for the winter of 2010-2011. Check your emails, Check your

Facebooks you can even check your mailboxes! we are all caught up in this trend involuntarily.







That's right people this Winter season officially belongs to the season of baby showers and wedding engagements!

(shout out to all those people who are either engaged or having a baby) While I'm not going to sit here and complain about how

bad this trend is just because simply its a great experience that many of us wish to enjoy one day, I will say this am i the only

one out there who's getting annoyed with the shock factor of this trend?




It's starting to seem like at least once a month somebody somewhere is announcing either a engagement or a baby shower!

and i'm sure many of you readers will agree with me when i say

"Why is everybody getting married/having a baby at the same time?!" space it out a little bit! this is just too much happening

on a social calender!

With that said i would like to once again congratulate everyone who's either engaged or expecting little ones this winter

Back Again!!!!!!

Hello readers!!!!

I'm baaaaaaaaack!!! by popular demand if i must say. Its the year 2011 a brand new year which mean its time for a brand new

start however i must point out to some you that this is the year when the aliens come down to visit



yes that right just like the movie so don't act surprised when you see this giant space ship in the sky. I would also like to remind

some of you who aren't aware that also like the movie



The world is also about to end, key word of advise "what ever you haven't done by now, do it! cause you sure as hell aren't

going get to do it after 2012".

With that said I'm feeling like I'm back from a vacation Facebook is getting too PG and Twitter is like a virtual High School








(Like really how do people manage to get over 2000 or so damn followers!!??)

So with that all said it time to get back to what I do best rant and rave.

I'm not sure if many of you all know but CNN reports that a joint task force has reopened the case of slain rapper Brooklyn's

God The Notorious B.I.G whom was slain in L.A on March 9th 1997



This Comes after new evidence in the case was discovered. This is a good thing right now for all the Notorious B.I.G fans now

if only people can stop making up fake reports about Tupac killer being caught



and actually find out who really killed him. Speaking of dead musicians not really sure if any of you have been keeping up with

the Michael Jackson case




The damn doctor that killed Mike is going down, (its just too much to type about right now).

Speaking of Michael Jackson, being dead doesn't seem to stop the King of Pop from working at all his estate is almost worth

a good Billion, that right i said Billion! and if you haven't check out this album yet



make sure you get it for your collection. I've downloaded it and listened to it a few times and as a Michael jackson Fan I'm

going to keep it real, you get 4 good tracks out of it (and yes it really is him singing!). Not only does the man have an album out

but he also has a video game out too.



If you haven't played this game yet, let me warn you it is a serious work out! (sweated out my damn wife beater playing this

game!).




The experience of Dancing to Michael Jackson's video's is a experience that's worth having! And if your really a Michael Jackson

you would have downloaded those songs "Streetwalker" and "Sunset Driver" by now.

And now we move onto the world of hip hop (BlackBerry rolls eyes) Lil wayne gets out of Jail




And T.I dumb ass goes right back in!



Niki Minaj the annoying face making female rapper that she is



Has "so called" beef with Lil Kim




In what i was would describe as "Damn why you stealin my Style son?!"




And some body please tell foxy brown fat ass to either choose a side or shut up!



you havent had a hit since.....since....well damn does anybody remember when the last time she had a hit record?

And now we move on to Kanye West,




what can i say about this guy that hasnt already been said other than,




We dropped out!



We went back and registered late (that damn line was too long!)




It took us long enough hard partying weekends and all those damn papers we had to write but we did it! we graduated! took

pictures and all that






we were even depressed for a minute (gettin a job after college aint that damn easy!)




But what the Hell is this?!



Do we all have to be in a damn cult now?! with that said I'm done!

However before i wrap this session up P.diddy aka Puff Daddy has a group out called Diddy- Dirty Money



Can somebody please tell Total that they are wanted on the stage ASAP please!!!



And to wrap this up finally is it me or does it seem like young money just keeps growing?




With that said I'm done! til next time follow this Maniac on Twitter @JLghtDaDread

No Laughing matter!

Welcome back readers, for this newest blog post I have decided to explore a more serious topic that i feel is really important in

the world that we are living in today. The title is no laughing matter and the subjects of this title are kids killing kids, babies

having babies and parents not performing their parental duties.

The times are are changing faster than we realize, gone are the days of innocent teenagers just having fun and enjoying life

and replaced with news paper headlines about teenagers killing other teenagers.



Where did this whole new phase start? and when does it end?



and who's responsible for so many young kids being killed at young ages and being sent to jail at very young ages before their

lives even get the chance to begin?





Do we blame the parents for not teaching their kids the right and wrongs and installing that fear of jail into their kids? do we

blame rap music for encouraging these kids that you can get a record deal if you do so and so crime and go to jail for so and so

amount of time? or do we blame the school system for not teaching and encouraging these kids at a early ages that life has

a lot to offer them when they get older?

The only people that are to blame are us as a community! where are all the mentors? the big brothers and sisters who need

to be around these teenagers at young ages to teach them show them the examples of things that they are to expect later on

in life. I myself can go back to the days when i was a teenager (it seem so long ago) we weren't out in the streets trying to

rob and kill people, all us teenagers wanted to do was go the the hottest parties and meet some girls (just as girls wanted to

meet guys) play ball go to 42nd on Friday and Saturday nights and enjoy the teenage life. some where with the increase of

gangs, the parental neglect as well as the loss of mentors and positive influence the teenage life that all or most of us have

once known no longer exists.

Has anyone besides my self noticed a new growing trend these days? allow me to spell it out for in this picture



young girls ages 15 and up having baby at very young ages. I was walking down my block one day when i noticed a teenage

girl whom i figure couldn't have been no more than 16 maybe 17 the most pushing a little boy in a stroller, at first i simply

payed the the girl no mind until i got in the middle of my block and witnessed another teenage girl pushing a baby stroller

with a baby inside. At this point i begin to wonder what is this world coming to these days that these young girls all want to push

baby strollers at such young ages and where are they getting the concept for this idea? is it mainstream shows



or maybe its the media outlets that encourage these young girls to do away with their life and jump straight into women hood

and become mothers at very young ages.




what ever the answer to this mysterious case maybe its obvious of one thing, that neither parents or teachers are doing a good

job of promoting safe sex amongst these young girls.





As a teenager i recall plenty of times being in school and teachers as well as counselors promoting the strong sense of urgency

in safe sex one of the reasons was to prevent STDs which have become very common amongst teenagers these days as well

as prevent early pregnancy which is what is happening now. Once again we as a community are failing not only our selves but also

today and tomorrows youth by not educating them on the important of life and the issues that they are facing today.


I know you all have heard about the 4 year old that was killed in Brooklyn New york on September 2nd 2010 after being tied

down in her crib by her mother





After witnessing this whole scene (and I do mean witnessing because this happened right next door from my house) I've come

to this conclusion that some people really don't need to have kids! the fact that this little innocent girl died the way that she did

just doesn't make any sense and have outraged people all over the world as well as the community.

Its incidents like this that make people wake up and realize whats going on around them, for instance if the child services

people where doing what they were supposed to this little girl would still be alive today at this very moment!

I've said all that i can say with out getting angry about this, here are some of the images i managed to take take from my

front window on the day of this accident






















These issues that I've discussed are no laughing matter! and should be taken serious for what they are.

Leave your comments where ever you feel fit and please tell a friend to tell a friend to check out the blog post,until next time!